From a very young age, we are told that people love us or people hate us. People judge us on our intelligence and make us feel uncomfortable. We have waited so long to be accepted, waited so long to find our happiness and we made promises, yet we failed and fell down. We all thought we could fly, but rather ended up drowning with mixed emotions. We have confused happiness our entire life with being accepted and it’s definitely not our fault. I remember growing up, my father and all my teachers told me tales of love and marriage and how to settle down when the time comes. But, I think I found my happiness way after marriage and before life showed me it’s true color.
To be honest, life stopped pretending when we all grew up. Life is never going to be easy and it’s never going to give us what we want from it, some men think that they can reshape their destiny and get what they want. Well, yes, you can, if you work hard for it. Basically you were destined to work hard for your dreams. Love can be intimidating sometimes but if they are worth it, give it a shot and you’ll see them come back to you every single time. It is not compulsory for them to love you back, that is not how life functions, it’s just nature.
Some people we like, some we don’t. Don’t ever let someone’s disapproval to love you let you down in life and be absurd about yourself. The human psyche of yourself is the most important one when it comes to being happy, being happy is directly connected with your perception of yourself. Whether it be purchasing watches for yourself or giving yourself some “Me” time, do whatever makes you happy.
Loving yourself is the most important thing that you will learn this year. If you haven’t been prioritizing yourself over others, you have been pushing happiness away from you. We all require care and we all need love, I accept that. But do you have to pay the price to keep the people you love close to you? See the beauty you are, acknowledge your will and your desires. Plan to make yourself succeed rather than shipping for someone else. Become the driver of your own life.
Earlier I said that people are destined to work hard, I still stand by it. If you work hard for yourself, you will eventually achieve everything you’ve ever wanted. But the question is, do you even know what you want? Someone asked Billgates, who is the richest man alive? He named a newspaper stand guy, who was only there to help people. The more you self indulge yourself, the more you grow. The growth inside is you the only thing that should matter to you.
I remember Jim Carrey saying “I wish everyone could be rich and famous, so that we understand that it isn’t the answer.” This hit me hard. Made me wonder how unthankful I am for the things I have right now and I wished I had when I was a kid. A happy family, a nice subtle job might be enough for me but not for you. Be who you are and find yourself. Your happiness is
inside you and it always has been. To be happy, you are not supposed to be accepted by the entire world, you need to accept who you are. The moment you accept yourself, you will find that it doesn’t matter what others think of you and you will be happier than before.